So this is what they tell you when you receive a phone call from your adoption agency telling you that a birth mother has chosen you to be the adoptive parents of her unborn child. Crazy, right?? A few months ago all of this being "selected", "open adoption", and "communicating with the birth mom" was so very foreign to us.
To talk about any of it sounds completely outrageous...I mean seriously. They pick you. You actually have to "market" yourselves to birth mothers. Apparently we are a pretty cute couple, the husband and I. From our very first talk with a representative from our adoption agency we were told, "our birth mothers just LOVE teachers"...well hallelujah. We did something right. We chose the correct profession.
You know, once you get to the point of considering adoption as your route to parenthood, generally you have already been met with a great deal of heartache. You feel like a big fat failure. You spend all of that time trying not to get pregnant then when you want to, well you know...
Of course there are couples out there that have no fertility issues and just want to adopt to begin or expand their family. That's great. I admire them. They are fantastic people...it is just not how we envisioned our family beginning...with a phone call telling us "You've been selected".
If I sound bitter it is just because this is all so cathartic, the blogging.
I am excited. We are excited. Excited to become parents. Excited that we were "selected". Excited to meet our birth mom. And, most of all, excited to meet our "someday baby". That is how I like to refer to the little bugger. And I mean that with all the love in the world. Our "someday baby" is the baby God has chosen for us. The birth mom is just His messenger and kind of delivery person, if you will.
More later on how we got to this point but for now you know we "have been selected" (imagine a deep authoritative voice that echoes saying it)...it sounds more important that way...and trust me it is VERY important!
To talk about any of it sounds completely outrageous...I mean seriously. They pick you. You actually have to "market" yourselves to birth mothers. Apparently we are a pretty cute couple, the husband and I. From our very first talk with a representative from our adoption agency we were told, "our birth mothers just LOVE teachers"...well hallelujah. We did something right. We chose the correct profession.
You know, once you get to the point of considering adoption as your route to parenthood, generally you have already been met with a great deal of heartache. You feel like a big fat failure. You spend all of that time trying not to get pregnant then when you want to, well you know...
Of course there are couples out there that have no fertility issues and just want to adopt to begin or expand their family. That's great. I admire them. They are fantastic people...it is just not how we envisioned our family beginning...with a phone call telling us "You've been selected".
If I sound bitter it is just because this is all so cathartic, the blogging.
I am excited. We are excited. Excited to become parents. Excited that we were "selected". Excited to meet our birth mom. And, most of all, excited to meet our "someday baby". That is how I like to refer to the little bugger. And I mean that with all the love in the world. Our "someday baby" is the baby God has chosen for us. The birth mom is just His messenger and kind of delivery person, if you will.
More later on how we got to this point but for now you know we "have been selected" (imagine a deep authoritative voice that echoes saying it)...it sounds more important that way...and trust me it is VERY important!
4 comments:
I'm overjoyed for you guys! Can't wait to follow this journey with your new blog. Thanks for sharing it with others.
That is so awesome!! I can't imagine all the different emotions you and Blake are feeling,but it will be so worth it when you hold your sleeping "little bugger" in your arms and see how beautiful he or she is and all you can do is thank God for His greatness. We are sooooo excited and can't wait to meet your "little bugger"
Yay!!!
That is so exciting. Keep posting w/ all the details! I'm so happy for y'all. Get ready for the *best* ride of your life :)
I am sooo happy for both you and Blake! I know you must have so many emotions running thru you all at the same time. I cant wait to hear more and more details as time progresses!!
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